The Quiet Warning Lights: Signs of Struggle We Often Miss

The following article was written by LTCOL Stephen Kearney, Chief Mental Health Officer 
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We’re often taught to look for the loud, obvious signs of a mental health struggle, like explosive anger or deep sadness. But sometimes the most important warning lights are much quieter— subtle shifts in ourselves or our mates that are too easily dismissed as just “part of life.” Here are a few common signs that are easy to miss:

Physical Wear and Tear

Is a mate constantly complaining about being exhausted, even after a full night’s sleep? Or are they dealing with nagging aches, frequent headaches, or gut issues with no clear physical cause? When the mind is carrying a heavy, sustained load, the body often bears the brunt. It’s your system’s way of signalling the load.

Being Stuck in "On" Mode

Being switched on and aware is a valuable skill learned in service, but a constant inability to switch off can be a sign of underlying distress. This might look like always needing to be busy, feeling restless and on edge even on a day off, or constantly scanning your environment. It’s like an engine stuck idling too high, burning fuel for no reason.

A Sudden Change in Drive

Pay attention to a sudden shift in how you or a mate gets things done. Sometimes this means becoming a workaholic, using endless tasks and projects to outrun quiet or difficult thoughts. Other times, it’s the opposite: suddenly finding it impossible to make simple decisions or start basic tasks. This isn’t a character flaw; it’s a common sign that the system is overloaded.

These quiet signs are important pieces of information. They're not weaknesses, just indicators that the load might be too heavy. Noticing them in yourself or a mate is a critical first step. If any of this sounds familiar, a confidential chat can help make sense of it.