The Thoughts That Can Hold Us Back

The following article was written by, LTCOL Stephen Kearney, Chief Mental Health Officer.

Sometimes the toughest battle is the one fought inside our own heads. The decision to reach out for support is a big one, and often, our own mind is the biggest barrier. If you've ever hesitated to ask for help, perhaps some of these thoughts sound familiar.

Thought: “I should be able to handle this myself.”

We’re trained to be self-reliant and carry our own pack. But the smartest operators know their limits and when to call in a specialist. Getting support isn’t about giving up control; it’s about adding an expert to your team to help you solve a problem. It’s a strategic, intentional move.

Thought: “It's not that bad. Others have it much worse.”

It’s common to downplay our own struggles, especially when we’ve seen what others have faced. But pain and stress are not a competition. If a warning light comes on in your vehicle, you get it checked. Your wellbeing matters, full stop. You don't have to be at rock bottom to deserve support.

Thought: “No one will understand, and I wouldn't know what to say anyway.”

It's true that your experiences are uniquely yours. But the feelings that come with them—stress, frustration, loss of purpose—are familiar territory for professionals who work with veterans. You don’t need to have the 'right' words or a perfect explanation. Their job is to help you make sense of it all. A simple, honest, "I'm not doing so well" is a powerful start.

These thoughts are just thoughts—they are hurdles, not unbreakable walls. Taking one small step despite them is an act of immense strength.